Lessons from a Bride-to-be

Spring Break is over....and Ben and I are back in full swing school schedule. Only 6 weeks of school left, and 67 days until our wedding (AHHHH)....time is running away from us. We are still enjoying engagement but oh so very ready to be husband and wife!

For my last spring break of college I did the most exciting productive thing ever----went home and worked on wedding plans. Ben and I were in Albany for 10 days and we literally working non stop from sun up to well after sundown. BUT it was so awesome, we got so much done. It feels so great to come back to school knowing the bulk of our wedding planning is behind us. We are definitely not finished yet but the end is in sight and the big work is completed. (I may be doing a little happy dance in my cubicle just celebrating)

While at home there were definitely moments of anxiety and tears...but at the end of the day Ben would remind me of several things....I wanted to share them with you...for those of you engaged, married, or praying to be one day...remember these things.

  1. A wedding is but a day, marriage is a covenant made for a lifetime.--- A wedding is supposed to be a celebration. A physical, earthly picture to believers and non believers of the wedding feast of the Lamb that is to come.
    • Revelation 19:7 "Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted to her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure--for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. And the angel said to me, 'Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb."
    • See a wedding is a BEAUTIFUL picture to the whole world of the covenant that the husband and wife are entering into with each other. It is a picture of Jesus himself and his bride the church...so a wedding should truly be a celebration and time of rejoicing.
    • However, the wedding is but a day....it IS NOT the "bride's day" or the "groom's day"....it is the Lord's day. Marriage is the most intimate and literal picture we have of the Lord's relationship with his church of believers....so a wedding should reflect our Savior, not the selfish desires of the bride and groom. It should be about pointing those who attend to the Cross and the Lord rather than solely focusing on the relationship of the bride and groom.
  2. In the greater picture of life and in comparison to the greatness of our God, this small decision is irrelevant...(Example: type of stamps for the invitations, color of tablecloths, printed napkins vs. non printed, the type of car we leave in)
    • Colossians 1:15-19 "He is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of all creation. For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, weather thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities--all things were created through him and for him. And he is before all things, and in him all things hold together...For in him all the fullness of God was pleased to dwell, and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether on earth or in heaven, making peace by the blood of his cross."
    • It is all about Christ. Everything goes back to the Cross, the Gospel, and his blood. We brought nothing to the Lord but our sin...nothing else. So anything we have been given (knowledge, wisdom, love, a relationship) comes from him and is maintained through him.
  3. Take a step back and see what all you have been blessed with!
    • Colossians 3:2 "Set your minds on things that are above, not things that are on the earth."
    • Seek Christ, not things that will pass away. Does this mean never desire an earthly thing ever again? Absolutely not...that's impossible...but it does mean that we make our goal to strive after Christ (2 Corinthians 5:9---we make it our aim to please him) and not things that will ultimately burn and have no eternal value.
    • Ben reminds me of this often. I am a wretched sinner saved by unending grace. I am dearly loved by my family and fiance. I have been given the most amazing man who has become my best friend and encourager. I am more in love with him today than ever before, and I am going to call him my husband in just 67 short days.....putting things into perspective like this makes the decision about what guest book to buy seem so petty and silly...remember where you have come from and what you have been blessed with.
I am learning so much through this engagement process. It is hard, and humbling and really difficult to come face to face with so much of my selfishness, materialism, and anxiousness....but my Heavenly Father is good. He is so faithful to humble me through revealing sin in order to show me my great and growing need for him. One of my all time favorite verses is Psalm 119:71, "It is good that I was afflicted because then I heard your decrees." Through pain, discomfort, humility and struggle the Lord teaches us of his Word and reveals more and more to us about his character. Praise Him!!

I do not claim to know how to plan the perfect wedding, but I have learned that neither my wedding nor my marriage will be anything without Christ having my primary focus and priority.

Here are a few pictures from the break!








Check back really soon for a guest post from my handsome fiance, Ben Cox, on the male perspective of engagement and things he has learned along the way.


-Rach.